Style Steal: Color-blocked Coat & Friendship in Social Media

It seems lately in my circle of fashion/friends/social media acquaintances there’s little dramas of who’s friends with who, who gets invited to what, who follows who, and who doesn’t.  It made me think what is real friendship and in this social media world are we really friends?

Color-block Coat $35 (another color option)

Stripe Top $15

Denim  $88

Over the Knee Boots $150

New Arrival Crystal Icing Necklace $48

Fox Fur Pom Pom Black and Blue

I live my life being straightforward, honest, loyal but loving and fun.  I would do anything for my friends and try to surround myself with good people.  Maneuvering this semi fake world of friendship has made me cut ties with some that don’t really support me or even know anything about me.  I’ve had several people I’ve known for years unaware that I was the CEO of t+j Designs or even know I have two kids.  Listening to some of my friends talk about who unfollows them or their lack of support in the community I started thinking about friendship.  I understand the hurt, but I’ve also learned a real friend knows more than what you post, a real friend cares about your life whether it’s about your family or husband or work, a real friend calls you and knows you when you need a shoulder but overall a real friend doesn’t care if you like or don’t like a photo or blog post. It’s about a core friendship that isn’t determined by pictures or comments.  And the only people we should all care about are those core friends (not the insincere people).

I have found the best of friends in this blogging world and I’m grateful and love them!  Moving here knowing only a handful of people blogging has given me amazing opportunities in business as well as introduced me to the best girlfriends.  My continued focus now a days is  looking at the good, moving forward and not the petty things that really don’t matter.  Being a good friend to others is extremely important for me and I hope I only surround myself with others that do the same.  My hope is that women will stand up and support each other all the time no matter in what industry.  Backing each other is the best, seeing others succeed just makes everything better for all of us.  

For those of you who blog or instagram and get caught up in those moments, remember that if someone can’t be supportive of you behind the scenes than they weren’t worth your time at all.  Not caring and focusing on your own success is the best revenge!



  1. Tara | The Mix
    February 8, 2016 / 11:10 am

    I love the color and pattern going on here! And the social media world is definitely tough to navigate 🙂

  2. Ashley @
    February 8, 2016 / 9:27 pm

    Such a poignant and truthful post Jen! Social media makes it all too easy to be only a superficial friend!Xoxo,Ashley || Sed Bona

  3. Dannie Moore
    February 9, 2016 / 2:25 am

    I love this post! That coat is seriously amazing. I love a good color block ANYTHING and this coat is seriously wonderful. That's a stunning color combo. Friends in the blogging world are so wonderful. I've met some amazing people (including you!) and I love how supportive everyone is. Like, truly supportive. So many of my non-blogging friends don't even know I run a blog and it's infuriating. I love how honest you are with this. xoxo,

  4. Jennifer L
    February 9, 2016 / 11:08 pm

    Such a good post… and oh so true! On another note, your jacket is beautiful! xo,

  5. BB
    March 2, 2016 / 8:02 pm

    "The best revenge is massive success."Frank Sinatra

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