The hardest step through the past year has been embracing change. Change is hard for me (but doesn’t everyone feel this way)? But it hit me last week, maybe I fear all of it, but change has brought me to this spot here today. I made these decisions and change is what happened from it. What has gotten me through life is looking forward to what’s next and my way of embracing changes and challenges. Through each move to a new city, to building a business, having kids, and now moving into a new place and a new(ish) type of life, I try hard to take it step by step and enjoy the adventure. This year has taught me more about myself than ever. Change is good and by embracing change, I’ve been challenged, happy, scared, and amazed by what has come. I just never realized when I was heading into each decision, I was actually embracing change.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had some real down moments where I wonder if I made the right decisions for my kids, for my life, for my future. I worry too much and it’s a bad habit of mine to stress about things I can’t control. My journey of worrying less is still ongoing. Fear of change is still in my day to day life, but I’m moving with the punches and seeing all the good rather than drown in the bad.
My move was full of stress. We were having some issues on my big home and I literally had a week to find a place, figure out movers, pack and move. Sometimes I wonder how it gets done, at this very moment, my bedrooms are still full of boxes and I’m sleeping on the couch. I try to tackle each step by writing list and giving myself a calming pep talk. One room at a time (I keep telling myself). When I was packing, Rema, my friend offered to help me! She is so wonderful and spent two days helping me get through my house. True friends shine during this process and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Overall, this journey is a very lonely process. Each step is drawn out, sometimes with difficulties that are hard to open up about; I have learned to rely on myself more than ever and today I sit here and I feel good about it. I went through my 20’s relying on my boyfriends/husband to guide me, make me feel supported, and act as my backup on most decisions. To be honest it continued into each step in life, until this past year. Now each decision is my own, I question myself less, and I see my mistakes and figure out steps to resolve it. I realized I was relying on someone else too much for my worth and for acceptance. I’m sure there is still some element of that in what I do with social media, but I truly love fashion and food and sharing. I’ve connected with so many of you and it’s an amazing experience.
I’m no expert at all at embracing change, but things that have helped me through it are listed below and hopefully help guide any of you at embracing change as well.
-Jotting down what’s going on now. Sometimes it gives me clarity to write things down, you can go back to read it and realize a different solution or point of view.
-Opening up to friends or close ones on your issues, decisions needed, or just for a glass of wine. Ask for help!
-Seeing the good when things are bad. I know this is really hard to do. Being open to good and things to come, will bring good things to you. I guess, I believe whatever your energy is to others is what you get back. Same with opportunities in life and work. Pursue the good with passion.
-Taking things step by step, list it out, talk it out, whatever you need to get it done.
-It’s also ok to have stress, anxiety, and keep moving forward. I’ve been told many times to not stress, to not worry, but telling me this never works. For me, I own it, I live it, and I keep trying to resolve each step.
-Talk to a professional if you can.
-Journal! I need to do this more but I use my blog as a way to share.
-When something good happens, write it down! You have to jot down the good stuff.
-Take a day to give yourself a break.
The best part about change, is seeing what’s next. Life has taken unexpected turns, but I’m appreciating all of it including the bad moments. This past month has been unexpectedly exciting, busy, but sad, all at the same time. With every step is a new chapter and I’ve said it before, I’m looking forward and up. Cheers to embracing change.