{1} Be You. Do You.
There is only one you so stop questioning yourself! Challenge yourself, yes, but love yourself!
{2} Don’t be afraid to ask questions and ask for a raise!
Learning and growth is everything! No question is stupid, ask without apologies and don’t be afraid to ask for what you are worth.
{3} Basic is boring, so do you and be different.
I’ve been told I’m “extra”, “too much”, “difficult”. Guess what, easy is boring, and basic is boring. Embrace who you are, but make sure you don’t question yourself for just being you.
{4} You’re worthy of being treated right.
Ladies, a constant struggle in relationships and marriage. Remember you are amazing, so whoever you end up with should think the same. When you know your worth, you attract those that do to!! Write it on a post-it and stick it on your makeup mirror. I tell the ladies that DM me this daily!
{5} Your time is valuable so don’t waste it on people that don’t see your worth.
This is something I really learned in the past few years. Dating and friendships. It’s ok to exit that relationship that doesn’t make you feel good, that friendship that isn’t equal, and you’ll find those that really love you for you and are kind in a friendship that actually cares how you are.
{6} Go into a date figuring out if YOU like him and don’t be concerned if they like you.
Another dating tip: you need to make sure YOU like him! That way you don’t confuse having company and liking that they like you and choosing the wrong men. See clearly that you need to know if they are the right fit for you. Take your time, ask questions, don’t get carried away with the confusing texts, messages, and half-ass efforts.
IF A MAN LIKES YOU, YOU KNOW, THERE IS NO CONFUSION.
{7} Don’t worry about things that can’t be controlled.
This the hardest thing that I work on daily. What decisions can I make now? What should I really worry about now? Being more present and looking at what I can control today has helped me stress less. I also realize I can’t control other people’s decision making so how they act or do, isn’t my responsibility.
{8} Perception is everything, go into things with open eyes and hearts, and always look for the positives.
I’ve learned that how I see things impact the outcome and what I can learn from each situation. Rather than dwell on the negatives figure out the positives and why it was meant to happen.
{9} Life is an adventure, welcome change, and don’t get stuck!
How I live in life every day! Change is great and has allowed me to meet wonderful people, experience amazing things, and be where I am now. Don’t be afraid of it as many times it is easy to go back to what you had before.
{10} Do not feel bad for being you, do not compare or compete, your biggest battle is yourself, so focus on what YOU can do.
Don’t get caught up on what others are doing. I hear this often from moms, friends, and ladies where they dwell on what others have in life, jobs, things, etc. I’ve also dealt with former friends who were competitive, compared, said negative things to me to bring me down a notch, and online negative comments. I’ve quickly learned that this isn’t my problem or about me. Women who are self-confident and love themselves don’t take others down.
*This shot at the Langham Chicago during my recent staycation (#1 hotel in Chicago)
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