2020: My Love Life and Answers

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Ok so the cat is out of the bag and I’ve been holding a secret for a while, rather than answer each person’s questions I thought I would compile them here.  Some of you asked for advice as well, so I answered those too! Here it is, an overview of my life for the last few years and a bit about Jim (my boyfriend in the photos).

As a little girl, I believed in fairytales.  The big dress, the handsome prince saving me, and living happily ever after. Then life happened. There are so many things I wasn’t told. Relationships are hard, money, work, balance, kids, and marriage can feel like a battlefield. So far life has taught me that living, learning, and loving yourself can be the dream fairytale. A man shouldn’t save your life and give you happiness, he should add to it.

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I’ve learned a lot about myself the last 3 years through a divorce, being single, buying my own place, and settling in. I wasn’t ready for a relationship for a while so Jim was a nice surprise. And was it a surprise, I didn’t expect to find someone like him. I kind of gave up on love after my divorce. I felt broken and like a failure. I was super content by myself and pretty much thought no one would meet my expectations.

Then I met Jim. I feel loved exactly as I am . . . and it was what I needed and was looking for. He laughs at me, he is proud of me, he loves everything “extra” that I am and doesn’t want me to change. I feel that he sees me exactly as I am.  So lucky him and lucky me :). Don’t worry we’ve had our fair share of arguments, we aren’t perfect, but we see each other for who we are.

Relationships are a work in progress, taking this step in sharing him was a huge one for me. HUGE. I was a nervous wreck. But the response was overwhelming. I feel your love and it is AMAZING. Thank you for your kind words of support and as I evolve into the next steps, I am so happy to take you along with me. I’m always learning!

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Down to questions I got! There were so many but I narrowed them down to the ones asked the most and that I was comfortable answering. Jim is a fairly private person, so dating me has been an adjustment. I am sharing what I can and being respectful to him, but I’ll definitely be sharing more as the weeks go on. Tune into my stories weekly and this week will be a fun one!

{1} How Did You Meet?

The most asked question overall, “How did you meet?” As all of you know, I was app dating, BUT we didn’t meet on an app. Jim and I met on a night totally unexpected and in person. I was out with a friend when we decided to stop at the Soho House for a drink. It was a last-minute decision to go out so I was underdressed and not looking to meet anyone. While catching up with her, she spotted a client/friend (as she owns a hair salon), she got up to talk to him at the bar. After a brief chat, Chance the Rapper walked in with like 20 friends, it got really crowded, so my friend suggested to her guy friend to move farther away to chat. Jim was with him. They were old friends and were catching up for the night and about to leave. We moved to some seats away from the bar and that is how we met.  I immediately thought and said out loud, “You are very cute.” At that point, I had a few drinks and if you know me, I definitely don’t think before I speak after a few lol. It was definitely a “chance” meeting, we have zero friends in common and don’t run in the same circles!

If not for my friend and Chance the Rapper, I would have never met Jim.

{2} How Long Have Been Together?

So we started off as friends. . . dating/life is complicated. I was not ready for a committed relationship and there were other complications. The dating stories I told were true stories, timing may have been off (as I don’t talk about current men online, except for now). But every story told was true. I could write a book about app dating and it seems many of you too. I hear horror stories from you guys as well.

I had to grow and learn a lot and figure out what I wanted. With each guy I dated, I didn’t want to rush into a committed relationship and feel trapped later. I really evaluated what I was looking for and if it was the right fit. I was pretty happy by myself and not rushing for anything. I dated quite a bit and maintained a nice friendship with Jim. I will say it got more serious during COVID which helped me reflect on how much I cared for him. Posting him online was a huge step for me to move forward to show him and you guys the next chapter in my life.

{3} How Old Is He?

37 years young 🙂

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{4} Does He Have Kids?

Yes, two. A girl and a boy. Won’t go into too much detail as this is his private life.

{5} Does He Live in the City?

No! Surprised?! He lives in the burbs and has for a while. We see each other whenever we don’t have our kids.

{6} Will He Be A Part of Your Social and Tik Toks (lol)?

I hope so! I haven’t pressured him to be, but just hope to show a little bit more of my private life online with him. He is super supportive of my job and happily takes my videos and photos when we are together.

{7} Have Your Kids Met Him?

Not yet and working through things step by step. My #1 thing is making sure my kids don’t have people go in and out of their lives. I also want to make sure my kids are prepared to have someone else in their life. For now, we are enjoying each other, but hopefully soon as I think he would be great with them!

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{8} What’s Your Favorite Thing About Him?

He is thoughtful, affectionate, and creative. He brings me little gifts each time he sees me. Affection was a big component that I wanted and he shows me all the time. He writes and plays music on a guitar. I’ll have to show him playing soon on my stories! I can’t write music or lyrics so I love that he does this.

{9} Biggest Dating Advice

One thing I really worked on was being vulnerable. I realized I wasn’t being open in dating for the first few years and it was stifling me. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. When I say vulnerable, it doesn’t mean being desperate or telling people you are immediately looking for marriage and babies (that’s too aggressive lol).

I wasn’t opening my heart to men or relationships, I found excuses to dump everyone. I wasn’t opening myself up to even say I like spending time with you. Going into dating with positivity is key. Positive energy attracts positive things!

Be hopeful, date on apps, be open when you do go out, do setups. If you are really looking for love, be open to it all. Wanting company and a relationship doesn’t make you needy, everyone wants love. I always say that dating is similar to searching for a job. Would a job just land in your lap? Maybe, but it isn’t often you get a dream job that way. Dating takes work too and don’t get disappointed by things early on. So0 much better to know early that someone isn’t the one and move on. Energy wasted on brief relationships or a few dates is not useful. And believe me, every city is hard to date in. I’ve heard from you guys from all over!

Oh yes, don’t fall in love with love. Fall in love with the person. The one thing I’ve seen people do is to start planning their life before they actually know if the person is right from them. Falling in love with love is blinding. See clearly and know yourself before marriage!

Final piece of advice: Know your worth and if someone doesn’t value you, move on. ALWAYS.

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{10} How Do You Even Find a Quality Guy?

Quality for each lady is different. Have guidelines of what you really need (emotionally and in life), but don’t’ have a list so long you’ll never find a man.

Patience, hope, and believe that you’ll find the guy that loves you for you and vice versa. What you believe typically feeds through you and your life.

Once again: know your worth. So it’s not about just you finding a quality guy, it’s that if you know your worth, when a quality one rolls around, you know it and if he likes you, he will pursue you.

{11} Does He Have an Instagram Account?

For now, he prefers to be private.

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There you go my friends – stay tuned for the next chapter in my life and much love to you all.

 

 

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